Making out that they’re okay when they’re not
And here comes another panic attack
Oh here we go again
I explained In a recent missive from the dark side that dealing with depression, anxiety and all manner of woes is an ongoing process, a set of rolling repairs stretching into the distance. You are never “fixed” , “better” or “okay now”. Just because you have a period of relief from that which ails you people assume that you are now fine. It doesn’t work like that.
I admit that my own life has been pretty blissful of late but the black dog can still descend without warning, set off barking by the slightest thing. For instance, the “missing persons” thread on this here blog gave me a serious wobble for a couple of days and still kinda lingers. Cos that was me about two years ago – the post about this was probably lost in the fire – but I had it all planned out and was ready to go when cowardice \ courage stopped me. Seeing such things being discussed bought back nasty memories of that pain and confusion I was in.
This is not posted to make the OP feel bad in any way but to highlight how fragile our state of mind can be. When you are in a good and comfortable state mentally the fear is always there that the darker & more desperate times can return. You often hear of people committing suicide just when “they seemed to be doing so much better” as the dip back into pain is harder, faster & more intense – it creates a feeling that these things are inescapable. You lose focus far more quickly and well, the results can be disastrous
With the festive season upon us I’d just like to impress on people who may be or know those who have mental problems to keep an extra eye on them in spite of the hustle and bustle of the period. If you are not sure how to approach it then http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/ is a good place to start
If I had one thought it is – just a simple phone call, message via social media, letter, card or just a simple “hello, how’s your day been?” can mean more than you realise. Even if we say we are ok, we are masters of covering up, deceiving ourselves and others. Just because people are seemingly doing well from their Facebook and Twitter feed doesn’t mean that they don’t sometimes feel the fear returning and need a friendly arm round the shoulder. Not a “u ok hun?” but a “Hey mate, fancy a chat?” and even if they don’t or can’t at that moment they will appreciate the sentiment behind the offer.
Take care of yourselves – and each other.
And when you’re no longer searching for beauty or love
Just some kind of life with the edges taken off.
When you can’t even define what it is that you’re frightened of
This song will be here