Going through a bit of a rough patch, but nothing life-threatening or that most people haven’t been through: long-term marriage problem, perhaps amicable separation on the cards but the kids are fine; an old girlfriend returned to re-enact some anxious/avoidant friendship dynamics; ensuing lack of focus at work and having to leave the classroom in tears. So currently living out of home (but among friends and safe and housed). It’s not a crisis – I’m trying to see it all as a gift or lesson, and part of Lifes Rich Pageant – but much of my reading keeps coming back to the same thing: self esteem. Doing some meditation – check. Good friends to chat to – check. Breathing exercises – check, (but still doesn’t feel natural). Being in nature – boring, but I’m trying to look at the trees.
So my question to the learned folk here: any tips for putting some lead back in the pencil and feeling generally more Ok with yourself? Any strategies that help you ‘speak to yourself as a friend’? Anything to counter that innate sense that you’re just a bit shit?
Sorry if it’s a bit of an amorphous question – just looking for new perspectives and do-able strategies
(Mine are shit! hahaha)