Ok. Little bit of background, for those that do not know of me or my life, I am Les, recently turned 64 & happily loved up & married to the lovely Carol after being widowed in 2001.
I also served in the Royal Navy 71-96.
I suffer with depression/lack of confidence/low self esteem, yet happy (ish) most of the time.
Now then, social media. I belong to several groups on Facebook most (But not all) are related to my service in the RN.
So far, so good.
I am in one very small group of former colleagues from 79-81 when we all served together on the same ship.
Thing is, the group conversations are predominantly racist jokes disguised as “banter”.
The politics is also 180 degrees opposite to mine. Don’t get me wrong, I have good friends who are leave voting hangings too good for the conservatives, but we have no problems rubbing along.
However, these 3 are wearing me out (an example – one of them commented on the person who reported Dominic Cummings had himself seemingly broken lockdown/ self isolation rules – when I said to my mate, does this diminish what Cummings did, he replied “who cares” which said to me that he was ok criticsizing someone, but not comfortable with my having a questioning view.
As I say, please don’t think that I am upset because they have different views from me, it’s all of the sub Bernard manning/Jim Davidson style jokes/ casual racism that I am struggling with.
I know the easy way out is to just walk away, but I am not sure if I am willing or able to do that.
Am I being unreasonable with myself here? Should I just chuckle along for the sake of old times?
What can a poor boy do?
Any/ all advice welcome.